Steve Peña Confirms Split From Husband Brent Everett: “We’re Parting Ways”

Posted November 13, 2017 by with 95 comments

151056087647298One of gay porn’s most famous power couples—featuring one of gay porn’s most iconic stars—is officially calling it quits, as Steve Peña announced on his Facebook today that he and his husband Brent Everett are “parting ways.” The couple were married in October of 2008, but nine years later, it’s over:

stevebrentHints of the couple’s split have been dropped all year long, most recently in September, when Everett launched a $20,000 GoFundMe campaign for an underwear line (which is still up, after raising $415), and one angry Facebook user left a comment indicating that Peña and Everett were separated. In March of 2016, Everett and Peña’s former partner Jayson Smith announced that he was leaving the “throuple” (the trio were in a three-way relationship), making allegations of drug abuse in the process. A year prior to that, Smith and Peña bludgeoned each other during an alleged “drugged up brawl,” and posted photos of injuries on social media.

After nine years, Everett and Peña lasted longer than most gay porn couples, let alone regular gay couples, or straight couples. Str8UpGayPorn wishes them both the very best.

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  • Xzamilloh

    Yeah, I gotta agree that 9 years is definitely a long time, but they definitely had their toxic moments so it’s probably for the best they cut ties and move on. And now Brent can focus on raising the 20 grand for his legitimate underwear line

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  • R.A.M.J

    This marriage was DOA when Steve started fucking Smith. Brent wasn’t even part of that relationship til a year later.
    So I guess all us “jealous haters” were right all along.

    • McM.

      So Jayson was Brent’s husband’s boyfriend?

      • James Johnson III

        He was technically both of their boyfriends

        • sxg

          Nah more like Brent tolerated Steve’s infatuation with him and played along. I don’t think Brent really cared for him at all.

          • R.A.M.J

            Exactly!!!

          • James Johnson III

            Possible. Sometimes Triad relationships don’t work

          • JJ

            It was hardly a “relationship” when Brent was living in Toronto whilst Jason and Steve were in DC. Steve was the only thing connecting Brent and Jason. That whole ordeal was just a show for followers.

          • R.A.M.J

            And to promote that damn book and the documentary “Im a porn star” lol

          • JJ

            Well and for the attention Steve got by association with Brent.

          • JJ

            Brent has been tolerating Steve’s infatuations with guys for years. Steve had other boyfriends on the side long before he went public with Jason. I think for years the only thing that honestly kept the Brent/Steve saga going was their “business”.

        • R.A.M.J

          Not until a year after he was already fucking steve

      • R.A.M.J

        Yep, Brent wasn’t added to the relationship until a year later. And apparently in addition to a husband and a boyfriend, steve had ANOTHER boyfriend. He posted a pic with his current boyfriend saying “5 years and still going strong” he was with Jayson for 3.5. So im guessing a husband and 1 boyfriend wasn’t enough. He had him a piece in San Diego. When that boyfriend came out the shadow is right before he and brent stopped following each other on social media hmmm

        • Danny Boi

          Wow. Years of oppression have left us gay men unable to properly hold stable romantic relationships. Excluding extreme situations such as a partner’s disability that leaves him unable to have sex, in my opinion, open relationships will never work and will always lead to a downfall. Maybe threesomes with your partner can work, but this side bitch thing…never.

          • RW

            Open relationships are not the downfall, it’s the lack of communication

          • Sean

            You have no clue what you are talking about. BLaming an open relationship for this break up is like blaming same sex marriage for the divorce rate in the US. Relationships tend to fail when there is violence and drug fueled episodes. ALso, if one person gets ober and the others do not, it is a recipe for disaster.

    • Ninja0980

      Yup.
      The minute you bring in a third person, your relationship is doomed.

  • Deviancy Behavir

    Power Couple? They couldn’t even scrounge up a measly $20k for some of their Kentucky Fried Chicken underwear line, You know the one that came with a 3 pc and a biscuit with a side and a large Sweet Tea with every order over $50 dollars. If you can’t have your underwear line drop without a gofundme then you’re not balling out of control like you think you are.

  • Bill

    I don’t know what’s the point of gay marriage, i mean as soon as you go to work, your partner is cruising Craig’s List, Adam4Adam & Grindr.

    • R.A.M.J

      It depends on the couple. I haven’t thought about anyone else since I found my husband and I trust him enough to believe he hasn’t either

      • Sean

        “I haven’t thought about anyone else since I found my husband”

        Sorry, but I dont believe that. You are on a gay porn site. If you have never THOUGHT about another why are you looking at porn? You arent human if you have not thought “wow, I wonder what that guy is like in bed” or “damn he’s got a nice ass, I’d surely like to eat that”.
        HUMAN BEINGS think about it all the time. It is nature. You may have not acted upon it, but you defy credibility when you say neither of you have THOUGHT about it

        • R.A.M.J

          First off, ive been commenting on this site well before I met my husband. This is entertainment. Hell most of the gay porn stars i did like are now retired. What I know of the currents ones, I’ve learn from this site. I don’t even watch porn, I make my own with my husband. Studio porn does nothing for me anymore. And since i’ve been with my now husband, no i haven’t cared or wondered what another guy is like in bed. Just because I find someone attractive doesn’t mean i want to fuck them. And yes, since i’ve been with my husband, even before we were married. I have never desired to be with another man or woman. Now if you can’t separate seeing someone as attractive and wanting to fuck them. Then that sounds like a personal problem.

          • so, so deformed.

            yet you seem to know the details of Brent and Steve’s lives better than their priest. you’re all over this post.

          • R.A.M.J

            When i did watch porn, Brent was one of the first gay porn stars I saw. I’ve followed him and eventually steve since day one pretty much. Then when this soap opera known as their lives started, it was like a train wreck I couldn’t look away from no matter how hard I tried. LOL

          • R.A.M.J

            This is nothing compared to the middle aged hags that follow them.

          • WhimsyCotton

            Their lives and the train wreck throuple have been going since at least 2013. That’s the year this blog came up, so I imagine that’s how he knows of them.

          • Hereweare
    • sxg

      Ever heard of an open marriage? Those exist. Just because someone’s marriage doesn’t fit into what is considered the heterosexual norm doesn’t mean there’s no point to it. And even straight people fail miserably to fit into their own definition of marriage, so you should really aak yourself what is the point of marriage and all.

      • R.A.M.J

        There is no point to it. Why even get married if you still going to fuck around. And look how well the open thing worked for steve and brent

        • sxg

          Dan Savage and Terry Miller, the 2 that started the It Gets Better campaign, have an open marriage and they’ve been together for over 20 years now, married for over 10yrs if you count their Canadian marriage, and in that time adopted and raised a son who is now 18. Just because it didn’t work for Steve and Brent doesn’t mean it won’t work for anyone. They are a terrible example of an open marriage because all of us saw that it was always one-sided, that Steve really was the only one who wanted side pieces. And yes it didn’t work for them in the end, but as tumultuous as their marriage was they lasted far longer than most other gay pornstar couples/marriages.

          • R.A.M.J

            Is it really working or is that just what they tell the public. Battered sposues say they’re happy too but behind closed doors is another story. Just saying.

          • sxg

            Don’t be a cunt and start shit if you have no proof to a baseless rumor.

          • R.A.M.J

            What rumor? I asked a question? People lie about their relationships. Maybe they really are happy maybe it’s a facade. I don’t know and neither do you. That’s my point. It’s between them where is should be and should stay.

          • Sean

            So why make shit up. They ARE together. You are saying it cant work. You are shown somebody where it is working and then say well you dont know if they are happy. I dont know if ANYBODY is happy. Either do you. Your parents could have been married for 60 years, and for all you know your dad could have been fucking some whore on the side. Mom may have been ok with that, or just didnt know. It isnt your business to say what does or doesnt work for other people. People have made many comments about Bill and Hillary Clinton, but they have been together for a long time. They each get what the other needs out of the relationship.

          • R.A.M.J

            Someone sounds really bitter and offended. LOL,
            I love the argument, “its none of your business…..” you’re right its not my business but when people publicize the intimacies of their relationship, they open the door for comment. If you don’t want people commenting negatively on the intimacies of your marriage relationship, how about keeping in the bedroom. The rest of us don’t need to know.

          • WhimsyCotton

            If I was a kid, I know for a fact I wouldn’t want my parents fucking around with other people.
            “Why didn’t you come home yesterday night, dad?” “I was fucking this guy Ted that I met on Grindr, son!”
            That’s just tacky. If you want an open relationship, don’t drag kids into that shit. It’s embarrassing. And no, this has nothing to do with gay or straight. It wouldn’t be acceptable for any family.

      • R.A.M.J

        Heteros do the open thing also

        • peter

          Aristocrats were notorious for it. Once the union had produced a son and heir (two, preferably), each was free to take lovers.

          • nick

            see the British Royal family for details of how this works

          • peter

            Reminds me of Quentin Crisp’s famous dish on Diana. At the time of the separation from Charles:

            “I always thought Diana was such trash and got what she deserved. She was Lady Diana before she was Princess Diana so she knew the racket. She knew that royal marriages have nothing to do with love. You marry a man and you stand beside him on public occasions and you wave and for that you never have a financial worry until the day you die”

            And after she died:

            “She could have been Queen of England and she was swanning about Paris with Arabs. What disgraceful behaviour. Going about saying she wanted to be the Queen of Hearts. The vulgarity of it is so overpowering.”

          • nick

            Quite a few people came foreward after she died to say she was a bit of a bitch.

          • Hereweare

            Never heard that. Interesting read.

      • peter

        Gore Vidal said that the reason why he and his partner Howard Auster lasted for 50+ years (until Auster’s death), was because they never slept together.

        In “The Magus” John Fowles makes this great observation that goes something like this: in the Victorian era people fell in love until sex reared its ugly head. In our time people have sex and then love rears its ugly head.” So if you have an open relationship there’s always the danger that one of you might fall in love with a trick, which I’ll bet is what happened here.

        • Carrel

          Did not expect a Fowles quote on this site 😀

    • Pinko of the Grange

      the point? There are 1200+ points. Most have to do with property and children.

      Here is just 1: there is visitation in hospital, making medical decisions for your partner if they aren’t able. With out it their bitch on wheels mummie from Grosse Pointe can roll in and lock your ass out even though they haven’t talked to each other in a decade. Sure you can get prophylactic POA’s but the hospital can make you prove they are valid (try that on a thee day weekend when you are halfway across the county) and the whole package winds up being a 3″ 3 ring binder (you have to take that everywhere) that costs $3300.

      How about inheriting Inuit tribal oil lease payments? Only a spouse can inherit those according to the charter of near all tribes..

      And why do we have to define marriage by the hetero-normative paradigm anyway?

    • peter

      Thanks for letting the other shoe drop.

      I love the story that Bishop Gene Robinson’s marriage fell apart when he found his husband on GRINDR.

      If you had said ‘gay marriage’ to Harvey Milk or any of the other early Gay Liberationists of the pre-HIV era, they’d have doubled-over in laughter “that’s a good one!” Alfred Doolittle’s dreaded ‘middle-class morality’, including marriage, was the last thing they wanted.

      However HIV changed the landscape when you had all these greedy, estranged relatives crawling out of the woodwork looking to claim the estate over the deceased long-term partner. “That damned degenerate!” once again became “my poor baby brother.”

      However, nobody summed up my feelings on gay marriage better than the late Gore Vidal. First he said glibly “I don’t know why gays want it, seeing what a mess heterosexuals have made of the institution.” Then, more seriously (ardent secularist that he was) he suggested that marriage was essentially a religious rite to which our secular state (inappropriately) affords the status of a binding contract. You can get married by a minister, rabbi, imam, priest, pundit etc., but if you get divorced it’s going before a judge. As an alternative, he suggested that Domestic Partnership should be the legal agreement between two adults. There are several European countries where this is in fact the case. Religious ceremonies mean nothing.

  • beefcupcake

    Nine years of marriage is a nice number for two gay men.

    • R.A.M.J

      In this day and age it’s an accomplishment for ANY couple gay or straight

  • James Johnson III

    This breaks my ❤. I kinda worried after “Brent” went public with his drug issues that the relationship may not last but I was hoping they could beat the odds. Nine years is a long time and, considering all that they went through together, It’s impressive that they lasted this long. I wish them both the best and that they can find love again…and, as a fan, this really saddens me since I think it may cement the end of Brent’s porn career

  • sxg

    https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/858eb9edbf47b1cfbeb3a70672ea22eaa19d2938e32ff739e0b2e1ee639973f4.gif
    Most people saw this relationship as doomed from the beginning, but I really didn’t pay much attention to these two until Steve brought Jayson Smith into the relationship and knew from Brent’s lack of interest in him this marriage is failing.

    It wouldn’t surprise me if this is what turned Brent to do meth. Well hope Brent can move on with his life and try to forget this toxic relationship. Although him begging for money to start another failed underwear line isn’t the right start.

    • R.A.M.J

      And all of us who did were called jealous haters. And we were right.

    • R.A.M.J

      Brent said he was using drugs on and off for years though. I’m sure this didn’t help.

      • JJ

        I have no doubt in my mind that Brent’s relationship with drugs leads back to Steve in one way or another.

  • so, so deformed.

    Steve managed him this entire time and partly owns Brent Everett LLC, I wonder what will go on with that.

    • R.A.M.J

      Probably give it back. Brent was the talent. They don’t follow each other on anything so i doubting they will be working together.

  • R.A.M.J

    So, will Steve have to get a big boy job now?

    • peter

      Where did they get married? California’s a Community Property state so Steve would be entitled to half of whatever Brent is worth. He can continue to go by Steve Everett, though.

      Didn’t they just finish detox and recovery together?

      • R.A.M.J

        They were married in both california and Canada. He never went as Steve Everett. Brent went into recorvery, steve never admitted to having a problem. Though i honestly believe he jays and steve were all using at some point.

      • Mr. X

        They can split the $415.00 that Brent’s “GoFundMe” campaign raised.

      • Brent ain’t worth that much if he’s asking for money from strangers and doing phone sex chat lines.

      • pje821

        Maybe there was a prenup stating they’d go their separate ways with only what they brought into the marriage, and would spilt what they purchased during the marriage. If Brent was the only one working during those eight years (hard to believe) it might get nasty. Time will tell.

    • FrenchBug

      Yeah, snark aside, what does Pena *do*? He has, like, six Facebook pages and I struggle to figure out what he does, even in nightlife.

      • R.A.M.J

        I have no clue. He was dancing in Toronto, Now I have no idea.

  • Steve the aging disco queen can’t let go of the bar/ drug scene and Brent trying to stay sober and with the site basically dead and barely making income it was time to move on to greener pastures. ¯_(ツ)_/¯

  • R.A.M.J

    I guess Brent has to have steve’s name removed from his lower back tattoo. This ladies and gents is why we DONT get our spouses names tattooed on us

    • And all Steve has to do is wear a sock over his tiny Dustin tattoo on his ankle lol

      • R.A.M.J

        That what the tattoo on his ankle says? I just thought it was like a barbed wire or something.

        • It says Dustin in tiny writing. =X

  • ANTSLC

    I hope Brent will be OK. I never cared for Steve’s personality, but hopefully they will both be better-off living their own lives.

    • R.A.M.J

      Steve had a much better personality before he moved to D.C. When he moved to D.C, he became this sex crazed prick. Maybe he was like that before and just didn’t show it, but honestly think him moving there instead of Canada was their down fall.

      • JJ

        They already had drama when they were “together” in San Diego.

  • John

    My question is does Jayson take Steve back? Jayson is a hottie with a killer ass….I’m sure Brent had his side chick in Toronto will be interesting to see the type of guys they hook up with now that the marriage is over…8 yrs is something to be proud of regardless of the problems…

    • peter

      “Side chick”? Is Brent Everett bi? I don’t follow him that closely so I don’t know

      • R.A.M.J

        Definitely not bi, “side chick” is a general term for side hoe, a slut who will fuck someone elses man or woman with no regard to that persons marriage or relationship.

    • R.A.M.J

      All three of them of new boyfriends now. Steve and Brent had boyfriends long before this was announced. Brents new bf is a cop in calgary, and steve’s new toy is somebody he apparently was fucking with for a while now. According to him for 5 years. So before jayson and during brent. Gee, I wonder where things went wrong.

      • JJ

        Unless the cop thing is band new I don’t think Brent is in that relationship anymore. His previous BF had a profile up on Grindr over the last week posing as Brent and saying some pretty nasty things about him. The same profile was changed to a meme about being single and for a brief period to a selfie.

        • R.A.M.J

          Honestly, i can believe it, Brent deleted all pics of that guy off of instagram and facebook, but I thought he added a new one when he went to mexico. I could be wrong.

          • JJ

            The guy seems like a douche anyways. I think Brent’s a nice guy and deserves a bit more than someone who’s just there because they like the attention.

      • John

        Steve boyfriend looks like Jayson, have you seen what Brents BF looks like?

        • R.A.M.J

          Yeah, he’s actually a cutie assuming its the same guy he’s been with who is a cop. Not the guy he was with right after Jayson.

    • Ninja0980

      From what I’ve seen, Jayson have moved on with a new (and IMO) hotter boyfriend.

  • JJ

    This relationship has been over for years… They’ve had couple like moments but it’s been clear for quite a while now that the majority of the time they’ve been living completely separate lives. For some reason it’s only now that Steve has decided to sever all ties.

  • S .

    “Husband.”

  • supertoddalan

    Oh no the world is ending

  • Scrapple

    I’m going to have a moment of silence for Brent’s marriage and his hopes of getting a green card.

  • Baradude
  • Maximus

    Most marriages fall short of the idllyic union between two people hopelessly in love and singularly devoted to one another. I suspect that the majority of humans are too vapid and egocentric to be emotionally capable of forging and maintaining that type of bond.

  • Ninja0980

    That’s been one of the worst kept secrets for a while now.
    Only question is why it took so long.

  • 9 years for a gay relationship is like what 18 yrs in the straight world?

    • Ninja0980

      Pretty much.
      Makes the porn couple I know 17 year relationship all the more remarkable.

  • n24rc

    And what happened to that green card? Any follow up? They were shamefully trying to get Brent a green card for the US, after he got busted for working and living here longer then he should have. I felt offended they politicized their situation for personal gain and nothing else. While other gays and lesbians are struggling to immigrate to the US from countries that kill or imprison gays. It really annoyed me.

    • R.A.M.J

      I don’t think he cares anymore. His only motivation for coming back was Steve and now thats over. He can run the company from calgary.

  • Jon

    I want to be snarky, BUT NINE years is like 20 in gay years and 40 in gay porn star years, so yeah…

  • LJ Williams

    Well, that’s a longer relationship than most gay males can ever hope for to be honest.

  • Buzzaki

    Good for Brent for understanding that sometimes sobriety means having to make some painful decisions to let go.

    Although, since Brent isn’t allowed to enter the USA, it never seemed as though the guys had much time to spend together. I’m all about long-distance relationships, but I’ve got a feeling this one might have lasted BECAUSE of the distance.