Exclusive: Third Man Comes Forward To Accuse Topher DiMaggio Of Violent Rape

Posted January 27, 2018 by with 24 comments

tmacLast weekend, gay porn star Tegan Zayne came forward with a statement accusing Topher DiMaggio of raping him on the night before they filmed a scene together in 2016. Two days ago, a man not involved with the porn industry came forward to gay news site Hornet with a similar accusation, that Topher DiMaggio had raped him, too, in 2016. Today, a third accuser is coming forward to tell his story, and his accusation—which was first brought to Str8UpGayPorn last Monday, the day after Tegan Zayne’s statement was released—is that Topher DiMaggio raped him, too.

This accuser has asked that he not be identified by his real name, and is being identified by the pseudonym “Bryan” for this interview. I was approached by a friend of Bryan’s last Monday to notify me of his story, and I then reached out to Bryan after that friend provided me with Bryan’s contact information. I’ve confirmed with the friend that Bryan told him about being raped by Topher DiMaggio, and the details of Bryan’s story as previously told to his friend are identical to the details of Bryan’s story as he told it to me yesterday.

Bryan’s friend is a performer in the gay adult industry, while Bryan is not involved in the gay adult industry. When I spoke with Bryan yesterday, he had not yet heard or read about Topher DiMaggio’s second accuser’s story.

Bryan is from Sacramento, California, and he is 33 years old. He was 32 years old when Topher DiMaggio allegedly raped him in Sacramento. What follows is a transcript of our telephone conversation yesterday, which has been edited for clarity and length.

Str8UpGayPorn: Hi, Bryan. How and where did you first meet Topher DiMaggio?
Bryan: It was in Sacramento, at a night club.

And when was this?
It was about a year and a half ago, in the summer of 2016.

And you had never met him before, until that night at the club?
Right. I walked into the club that night, and I’m one of those guys that people know. All the staff knows me there, and I was always really friendly with everyone. So, I go to my bartender, get a beer, start walking around, and I see Topher talking to somebody I know. I remember walking up to the person and saying hi, and then he introduced me to Topher.

Was Topher friendly?
When I first met him, he said, “You know who I am, right?” And I was like, “No.” I really didn’t know who he was. So, then he says, “I’m Topher DiMaggio, from Andrew Christian. I’m the entire brand of Andrew Christian. I made them who they are.” And I was like, “OK.”

As the night went on, there was a group of us hanging out; Topher and I had mutual friends. I remember thinking he was pretty physical, not just with me but with everyone. It’s like this sort of playful banter, but still it was weird that he kept, like, punching my arm.

And so all of you were just hanging out together at the club where you met him?
Yes. And one of the things that stood out to me from Tegan’s story was when he mentioned that Topher was belittling and degrading towards him. He was exactly the same to me, even though we had just met. He had this same belittling attitude that Tegan described. I remember I gave him a compliment—it was something about his body or him being in great shape—and he said something back to me, to the effect of, “Yeah, I know. And you’re like half my size.”

After a while we all left the first club and went to another club. It was here that I knew there was something wrong with him. We were on the dance floor, and he just all of a sudden pulled out his dick and pushed my head down towards his crotch.

He did this in the club?
Yes, right in the middle of the dance floor. He pushed my head down, like to go suck it, and I moved back.

Had he been drinking a lot, or doing drugs?
He was drinking, yeah, but even if he was drunk, it still obviously wasn’t right. We’ve all been drunk before, but we don’t pull our dicks out on dance floors and push people’s heads down. And later, yeah, he was doing drugs. He was doing coke.

At this point, did you have any intention of hooking up with him?
No. Not at all. I was pretty drunk, and when I’m drunk, even the hottest guys look ugly to me. Hooking up is the furthest thing from my mind when I’m drunk, and I can’t think about having sex with anyone. I was especially not thinking about sex with him.

So in terms of how the night was progressing, it was you, him, and a few friends you both knew having a night out at the club.
Right, but then some of us went back to a friend’s house, after the club.

And Topher came with you to the house?
Yeah, he came, and I think there were two others with us.

What happened back at the house?
That’s where it happened, at the bathroom in the house. That’s where it got violent. I had to go pee, so I went to the bathroom, but he followed me into the bathroom. He said, “I have to take a leak as well,” and I was like, “Whatever.” I let him go first, and he peed. Then I go to pee, and he got right behind me. Next thing I know, he pushed me forward against the wall behind the toilet, and then he pushed my face against the wall, really hard. My lip busted open on the wall, and I started tasting the blood.

image1[This photo of Bryan provided to Str8UpGayPorn was taken by Bryan on his cell phone on the morning after the alleged rape. Dried blood can be seen on the wound on his bottom lip.]

What did you say to him, or had he said anything to you after pushing you?
He just kept saying, “It’s fine, it’s fine, it’s fine.” And then he pulled down my pants all the way. Remember, I was still trying to pee, but I couldn’t. And then I felt him behind me, and I realized what he was really trying to do. So, I said, “No, don’t. Stop.” I kept saying “No.” Then I said, “I don’t bottom.” I kept saying “no” again, and then again he was all, “Don’t worry about it. Don’t worry. It’s fine.”

Did you think about yelling for help? I take it the bathroom was small, and you were unable to get out?
There were two other people in the house, but I didn’t yell. I thought I could try to push him off, and the bathroom was actually spacious. If I had been able to push him off, I would’ve been able to escape. I remember my hand going on his waist and trying to push back, but it didn’t work. He was holding my chest with one arm, and then holding one of my arms with his other arm, so I couldn’t move. And then he started doing it, and I really couldn’t move. We were standing there over the toilet as he did it.

How long did this last?
It seems like it was a really long time, but I think it was only 10 or 15 minutes. When he finally stopped and he let me go, I asked him if he was finished, and he was like, “Yeah. I busted twice.” He pulled up his pants and walked out of the bathroom.

What did you do next?
I got dressed and went down to my car, and I cried and fell asleep in my car. I had to go to work in the morning, and I looked at my face in the mirror when I got home and I realized that he really fucked me up. That’s when I took the picture.

You didn’t tell the people in the house though, you went down to you car.
Right. The first person I told was my mom. I told her I was raped, but that I didn’t know who it was. Saying it was a stranger I didn’t know was an easier way to tell her, I guess. I sent my mom the picture and she said she was so sorry.

Did you tell anyone else?
I told my roommates and friends, and I told my friend who told you. But telling people that I was raped hurt me more than the actual rape. At first, I was unsure where the line was drawn, and whether or not it was crossed to be called a rape. But then I was like, no, I said “no,” and he kept going, and he was violent, and by definition this was rape.

And did you ever consider going to the police?
My roommate brought up going to the police, but it was so hard to talk about. Like, I’m supposed to be a “man,” so how could I be raped? They told me I needed to file a police report, but I never did. I was dealing with my own inner battle for months. Like, did I insinuate something to Topher that might’ve caused this? Did I lead him on to deserve what I got? If I went to the police, I could imagine hearing Topher saying, “You wanted this. You asked for this.”

If Topher apologized to you today, would you accept his apology?
No. Because I don’t think he is sorry at all.

Were you worried about STDs after the incident? I didn’t ask earlier, but I presume he wasn’t wearing a condom?
No. No condom. I did go get checked for STDs, and I had everything come back negative.

How has hearing about him this week and re-telling your story made you feel? Are you doing OK?
I’m glad that this story has come out, because this is a real issue that other people need to hear about and learn from. I spent months worrying about my own reputation, or how I would look to others if people found out, and I’ve worried about being hurt all over again. But I think I’ve learned to think of myself as attractive again, and to love myself again.

I did see a therapist after it happened, to make a little more sense of it. And the one thing she told me that helped was that I would need to learn to forgive him, because if I carried it around with me, I was gonna eat myself alive. So, I forgive him, but I won’t forget.

Thank you so much for telling your story, Bryan.
Thank you.

 

If you or someone you know has been the victim of rape or sexual assault, resources available for help include RAINN, the National Domestic Violence Hotline for LGBTQ Abuse, The Network/La Red, and The Anti-Violence Project for LGBTQ people. More details on sexual assault support groups and a complete listing of groups in your area can be found here via HRC.

Comments on this post are being pre-moderated.

  • Sam Hunter

    These accusations are obviously all true. Too many similarities in how Topher’s behavior is described, not to mention his repeated use of the phrase, “don’t worry about it.”

  • DudeBornIn67
  • This is getting ugly….

  • Nanaudran

    I’m still shocked. Didn’t know that these things could happen from him . By the way at the time of these happened, wasn’t he in a relationship with Matt O’Reilly? Any words from him ?

  • Dreadmau5
  • Stevo Walker

    The first two allegations described unfortunate encounters but did not suggest a crime had taken place. Felony rape is a serious allegation per se. As the complainant has been afforded anonymity, here are some important questions that must have been asked:

    Has DiMaggio been questioned or charged as a criminal suspect in any of these allegations?

    There is no official report of what happened. Thankfully, there’s also there’s no statue of limitations on rape (or they tend to be lengthy in many states.)

    Taking pictures of a bruised lip and hopefully other evidence does substantiate the claim—did the timestamp on the photos match the date reported by the victim?

    Also, text messages are great evidence, as are outcry witnesses. Did anyone (his mother for example) confirm the timeline?

    Is there evidence that substantiates the assailant was in the city when the (alleged) rape took place?

    Were the friends contacted? Did they hear the rape in the bathroom? We’re they both gone for over 15 minutes?

    Were the victim/assailant in same the city when it took place? Most importantly, who reached out to the suspect for comment and did they decline?

    I’ve defended sexual assault allegations between gay men before. The police have always asked the victim why they didn’t report. He wasn’t a porn star—was he afraid? Embarrassed? Ashamed? Why?

    There isn’t enough evidence here to imply a pattern YET and these absence of these answers is disconcerting. Otherwise,this is great coverage of an important developing issue.

    • Pinko of the Grange

      All three report saying “No”, any sexual contact, with less than enthusiastic consent after that, is rape. Acquiescence nor negotiation implies consent.

      So does that standard make a lot of us rapist, well maybe, it would be the opinions of our partners that make the determination.

  • Stuart

    With social media these days you see a lot more of the day to day personality of porn models and frankly there is just something about Topher that rings true with his behaviour as described in all 3 of these accounts, so I’m inclined to believe they’re all true.

  • hi ZILLA

    Oh lord Jesus. Shit has hit the fan.

  • BoomPow

    So we’ve gone from Topher the price of one, to 3rd times a charm.

  • NickDC

    I find him to be credible simply because Sacramento is a cow town with like two gay bars and an Express Mart — the Sac scene is small enough that I’d imagine DiMaggio whipping out his dick on the dance floor was the talk of the town for a few days…

  • sxg

    I can predict now that Let-Them-Be-Racists directors Chi Chi Larue and Mr. Pam won’t have a problem working with him. Thank god Titan Men has some class and never re-hired that nightmare after all the shit they had to put up with him.

  • C A

    My thing is, why document a busted lip if you’re not going to do something with it?

    • Scrapple

      Because you might want to do something with it. It’s no different than men and women who are in abusive relationships document the abuse in case they decide to leave later. Didn’t we just see that with Seth Santoro?

  • OverKill

    Austin Wilde did give Topher “Worst Personality” award and Cameron Adams called Topher a fucktard. Others have said he has a very bad attitude and acts like a diva. Topher does seem to think very highly of himself. As far as putting Andrew Christian on the map:
    https://uploads.disquscdn.com/images/5cfe3cd5d807844d7950ca106a01161f7e2f9a98544d7408536fb068f8a0b5ed.gif

    It seems like he did it and takes advantage of men when they’re drunk or barely awake. I don’t want to accuse someone of something very heinous like rape until you have proof. Hopefully someone can go to law enforcement and report it so an investigation can be done. Rapists do need to be off the streets and behind bars.

  • Tony161956

    These stories sound very believable. Sadly it’s doubtful there will be charges filed or cases going to court. No wonder it’s hard to come forward. That said I hope guys do come forward knowing they are not alone and should not be ashamed. We’ll see if the porn industry doesn’t wait around like the Republican Party did with their “if true” caveat regarding Roy Moore. Andrew Christian should drop him and no porn studio or site or club should hire him again.

  • Maximus

    Topher should be incarcerated, but since that’s unlikely to happen, we’re just going to have to settle for him being fired from Andrew Christian and blacklisted in all LGBTQ industries.

    • Stevo Walker

      How do you figure that’s someone who has only anonymously been accused of a crime should be incarcerated?

      • Zachary Sire

        These aren’t anonymous accusations. The person in this report is a real person, with a real name and identity that has been confirmed prior to having his story published here. Just because you don’t know his real name doesn’t mean he’s “anonymous.”

        “Anonymous” would be someone writing in a letter using a fake name, with no means to confirm any of his story or identity, or it would be someone such as yourself leaving dozens of comments under a fake name.

  • Maximus

    We miss you, henny! Thanks for the tea!

    • sanfv

      I missed you sis!

      It’s interesting that someone with such visibility wouldn’t have witnesses come out from all directions as people remember every little detail about porn models from their public appearances.

      I’ve been to enough places to you:

      who can’t gogo dance to save their life, who has bad breath, who does drugs on the dance floor, who is an alcoholic, whose a thief and more. Topher has the reputation, all there is now is waiting time for folks to come through and add credibility to this monster’s pattern.

      Any way I can bug you to psycho analyze Miss Dimaggio?

  • Estelle

    Zach you need to photoshop in a giant skid mark on the underwear in the first photo

  • Paul J

    I feel sad that “Bryan” did not feel able to report this, but understand his reasons. I hope he has had and continues to have, the help and support he needs.

  • Nordschleife

    Unfortunately in the age of me too and times up I feel that people don’t look objectively at situations. Maybe because Of the rampant victim blaming in the past people have been so apt to take the side of the alleged victim without looking objectively at the situation and then we get lambasted if we look at things from a curious standpoint. I want everyone including Topher to be brought to justice if the allegations are true but I can also see a group of people who may not like his pompous attitude and/or aggressive nature and sought to punish him.

    Now the only reason I say this is because I have had an interaction with him. It was a hook up and he told me from the jump that what he wanted was some slapping, choking B.B. action. And was he a bit overly aggressive….yes he was but I knew what I was getting into. This was a recent occurrence so maybe now he likes his make his intentions known but I personally didn’t feel abused.

    The point of my comment is just that I feel people who look at things objectively seem to be persecuted because we don’t immediately agree with the victim.