Calvin Banks Shares Story Of Sexual Abuse: “My Dad Was My First Blowjob”

Posted February 6, 2019 by with 20 comments

calbGay porn star Calvin Banks is opening up to Himeros.tv and Davey Wavey in the studio’s latest YouTube interview. In it (watch below), Calvin attends a tantric retreat with fellow gay porn stars Alexander Mecum and Adam Ramzi, and he opens up about the sexual abuse he endured as a child, which was committed by his father. He also discusses his life as a child, growing up gay, what it’s like working as a gay porn star, and how he became comfortable performing sexually, both on camera and off.

As anyone who has suffered sexual abuse can tell you, talking about (or even thinking about) that abuse is not easy, and for some, it’s impossible. Thank you to Calvin for sharing his story and so much of himself in such a public and honest way.

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  • Seth Sexton

    Did you watch the full interview? What ever happened to his father? I couldn’t stomach all of the video because of DW.

  • Galaxy_Scribe

    Very commendable that he’s willing and able to talk about it. Kind of gross of Davey to turn it into clickbait for an erotic video

    • Troy MacGyver SP

      Sadly, I agree but it is something that does need to be talked about. As a child when it happened to me I remember thinking, now my childhood is over. It left such a scar I hit the booze to try and sleep and wondered if that is what made me gay. Finally, in my early 40’s I found a great psychologist and was able to heal from something that happened repeatedly to me in the fifth grade. One thing you realize is most people don’t want to hear about it and think you brought it on yourself.

    • Troy MacGyver SP

      Sadly I agree. I was abused repeatedly in the 5th and sixth grade and remember telling myself my childhood was over. I became hyper sexual and hit the booze to try and put it all behind me. Finally when I told people you soon realize nobody wants to hear about it and their face shows they think you enjoyed/brought it on yourself. It wasn’t until my early 40’s that 3 1/2 years of therapy helped me finally heal.

      • BLACKjHAMMER

        Troy I am glad that you are healing and I hope that you will continue to be a strong voice in letting young kids know that they did nothing wrong and that they do not have to suffer in silence

  • Devin

    What comes across on screen in most mainstream porn is not authentic, IMO. Also, his comments that he’s spoiled because in porn the guys are good at kissing, sucking dick, and taking dick. Lies. That’s not what comes across on screen in most mainstream porn, with few exceptions like TimTales, FuckerMate, and a couple other studios….but if we’re talking CockyBoys, MEN, NDS, and others they typically produce lack luster scenes featuring lazy uninspired fucking. A lot of times the top in the scene is not even fully erect. Again, go over to TimTales and learn what a fully erect dick looks like. You won’t see anything that hard at Cocky, MEN, NDS, etc. You also won’t see bottoms taking dick at those studios like they do at TimTales. You’ll see a lot of slow fucking, wincing faces and bodies tensed up. No passion. No chemistry. No excitement. This is why many of us prefer amateur porn on the tube sites. Yep.

    • Ulf Raynor

      Interesting, what do you consider to be the fundamental difference between these studios that make one superior to the other?

    • McM.

      Why criticize lack of passion and chemistry in other studios when no such things exist at TimTales now that it’s gone full Machofucker?

  • GuruMike

    xoxo

  • M__M

    That’s heartbreaking. Watching the video he seems to be healing from the trauma and abuse, but I guess we’ll never really know…

  • mtopndc

    I know first hand it does. And it wad decades ago and I still wish it never happened. It was not my Dad though, it was a boy I knew.

  • Drew Kingston

    I do not know if it’s really possible to “survive” after such an incestuous rape. The more one’s can do is to learn how to live with this wounded part of his self.

    • BLACKjHAMMER

      Drew I think deway meant survive as being able to find his own way in life by not letting his father despicable actions define him from becoming the person he wishes to be !

  • Troy MacGyver SP

    Yuck, as a victim that site makes me cringe.

  • SD

    I was – what one would call today – ‘abused’ when I was in 6th or 7th grade. It was with a hunky tenant who our family had rented a room out to. I don’t feel particularly traumatized by those memories. In fact sometimes I get a hard on thinking about it. Although I was legally a child then, I remember getting horny and sneaking into his room voluntarily and learning the ropes.

  • The ultimate betrayal :( How can a father do this to his own flesh and blood?

  • BoyFun.com

    Heartbreaking. Very commendable for him to speak out about it, and help others find their voices to help fight back against predators such as his father.

  • BLACKjHAMMER

    Because it’s almost like Davey is watering down the seriousness of this issue by making it a part erotic flick !

  • BLACKjHAMMER

    Gay porn studios should stop pushing the father & son plot lines half the time the son looks so very young I am not talking about the legal age of the models but the message that they are sending has got TO STOP because there is NOTHING appealing about a grown man and a young boy !!!!